http://weddingpodcastnetwork.libsyn.com/index.php?post_id=570973

Most people who sign up at dating websites are usually clueless about Internet dating dangers — whether they pay to join an Internet dating service or it’s a totally free Internet dating site — it doesn’t make the experience any safer if you don’t know what to watch out for.

So, be on the look out for these common Internet dating dangers:

*** People who lie in their profiles
Research has proven that men lie about their height, weight, marital status, age and income.
Women lie most about their weight and their age.

How to Protect Yourself —
Do not automatically believe anyone’s written profile
AND do not trust their photograph (which may be decades old or even belong to someone else)

If you become seriously interested in someone and you’re ready to meet in person but you want to avoid any shock:
Ask for a video skype call so you can see each other in advance of physically meeting
And ask to speak with a friend who can vouch for the facts of the other person’s profile

*** People who aren’t single
Do not automatically assume because someone is a member of a singles site that they are actually single. You want to have a good Internet dating match, and determining that the other person is actually single (or at least in the process of getting a divorce) is part of your growth process as you gain confidence in your ability to take your time and patiently get the information you need before you leap into something that could be hurtful.

*** People who are just players when you want a serious Internet dating match
Make sure to be up front in your email messages and phone calls that you want to find a serious relationship and you’re only interested in spending your time with people who have the same Internet dating match goal. Listen very carefully for any resistance to your comments and go forward only if you believe that you’re getting a solid response that matches what you are looking for.

One of the blessings of totally free Internet dating sites is you can practice being honest and curious, gaining more solid emotional and conversational skills, without it costing you a dime!

That’s why we provide free Dating Smart advice gifts when you join our totally free Internet dating site Love Life Express. http://lovelifeexpress.com

The question is, how did they do it? How did they know what to look for? How did they know what steps to take to assure that they weren’t fooling themselves, ending up disappointed and lonely again?

To assure that you’ve found your perfect love partner when meeting online, follow these romantic ideas for couples in love:

*** Face into your conflicts so that you can trust your mutual ability to resolve your differences in ways that benefit each of you and your relationship

*** Remain curious about each other, that way you never get bored and real romance is in any moment you connect

*** Generously express your appreciation, your care, your affection, your joy in knowing the one you love, that way you avoid taking each other for granted. And you move your relationship deeper and deeper into the shared heart space that will keep you joyously and romantically together forever.

While these tips for creating real romance apply to meeting online or off, they aren’t what most people think about when they are looking for love online and going forward in the process of seeing what kind of future is possible.

Practice the emotional skills needed to create a healthy, happy marriage while you are dating and that will insure you’ll meet the right kinds of people and eventually find the one that’s right for you.

And join LoveLife Express - our new Free Singles Site - where you receive free Smart Dating advice gifts just for joining -

http://lovelifeexpress.com

And tell your friends!

tags - looking for love, meeting online, looking for love, singles site,

But you don’t need to!

Here are 3 Keys to Successful Dating on Singles Sites

1) Ignore the Dating Games - Tell the Truth
If you are tempted to lie - whether it’s about your age, weight, your relationship history, income or anything else - you’re voting for your belief that you’re not really eligible to look for love with someone really terrific.

Instead, you’re lying reinforces that you’ll accept the attentions of someone who’s drawn in by your facade - and then you can only feel even more alone and frustrated. When meeting people online always tell the truth in your profile and in your responses to those people who contact you.

2) Know What Type of Love Partner You’re Looking For
When you create your profile, be specific about qualities you’re looking for in your love partner — beyond age and height and whether or not they need to live in your geographical area. If spirituality is important say so. If you don’t want to have children, say so. If you need to have someone who has never been married before, say so. Whether you’re meeting online or off, don’t waste your time and energy or anyone else’s when there’s no possible future between you.

3) Meeting Online and Then Meeting Safely Offline
After you’ve exchanged numerous emails with someone you find interesting, you’ll move on to several extensive phone calls. If you’re still interested, you’ll want to meet in person. And now you need to practice a few rules of successful dating, which are the rules of smart dating.

You’ll want to meet in a neutral and public place, like a Starbuck’s. No fancy restaurants that can lead to overcharged fantasies. No meeting at either of your homes which could be dangerous. And you’ll want to make sure you both pay for your own travel and/or refreshments. That way you focus on meeting each other as separate and mature adults, rather than Prince Charming and Cinderella, in order to determine if you want to continue seeing each other and you don’t confuse the get-together with a romantic and/or sexual encounter.

When you follow these 3 keys to successful dating on singles sites, you’ll be smart, safe, and successful in keeping yourself grounded and going forward only if you have sincere and conscious reasons to.

Our new and Free Singles Site is devoted to supporting you with Free Smart Dating Gifts when you join LoveLife Express, so be sure to create your profile at http://www.LoveLifeExpress.com

tags: love relationship advice, successful dating, singles sites, love partner, dating games, meeting online, meeting people online

But how do you go about finding the right type of dating site? Lots of dating sites are expensive so you don’t want to join up with a bunch of them at the expense of your wallet. And lots of them cater to people with values that don’t match who you are.

So what do you do?

So when you’re looking for love and romantic relationship online, and you’re serious about not playing a bunch of dating games yourself, you have to be cautious and careful. You’ll want to join a dating site that caters to people who hate all that dating game stuff - like all the people who lie about their age, their weight, their marital status — all that kind of thing.

So you’re going to want to join singles sites that attract more conscious singles, people who are interested in smart dating, dating with self-respect and respect for those they meet and date.

And it’s even better if you can join a dating site that is free. That way you can join, check it out, and do no harm to your wallet.

Then you’ll want to be as honest and as specific as you can be in your own profile in order to stand in your own integrity— AND attract the right kind of person who is looking for you.

Also, make sure you have some important and serious questions you want to ask prospective partners who reach out to you online. That way you encourage their honesty and their integrity right from the start — and you establish that you’re only interested in a serious, grounded relationship with a love partner who wants the same thing!

For a Free Singles Site devoted to supporting you with Free Smart Dating Gifts when you join, be sure to join our LoveLife Express site AND create your profile at http://www.lovelifeexpress.com

And Tell Your Friends! This is the only dating site - much less a free one - where you are supported with free Smart Dating advice gifts!

tags: love partner online, looking for love, dating games, dating site that is free,

But how do you go about finding the right type of dating site? Lots of dating sites are expensive so you don’t want to join up with a bunch of them at the expense of your wallet. And lots of them cater to people with values that don’t match who you are.

So when you’re looking for love and romantic relationship online, and you’re serious about not playing a bunch of dating games yourself, you have to be cautious and careful. You’ll want to join a dating site that caters to people who hate all that dating game stuff - like all the people who lie about their age, their weight, their marital status — all that kind of thing.

So you’re going to want to join singles sites that attract more conscious singles, people who are interested in smart dating, dating with self-respect and respect for those they meet and date.

And it’s even better if you can join dating sites that are free. That way you can join several sites, check them out, and do no harm to your wallet.

Then you’ll want to be as honest and as specific as you can be in your own profile in order to stand in your own integrity— AND attract the right kind of person who is looking for you.

Also, make sure you have some important and serious questions you want to ask prospective partners who reach out to you online. That way you encourage their honesty and their integrity right from the start — and you establish that you’re only interested in a serious, grounded relationship with a love partner who wants the same thing!

For a Free Singles Site devoted to supporting you with Free Smart Dating Gifts when you join, be sure to create your profile at “LoveLife Express” http://www.lovelifeexpress.com

Keywords - love partner, dating games, singles site, dating site

And being curious about each other is central to real connection and real romance.

So here are just a few tips to help you be a smart dater, a conscious dater:

Throughout the day, keep a list of all you’d like to know about your lover.

Make a time in the evening, or when it’s convenient, to ask your questions and share the answers with as much trust and openness as you can.

For example, find out more about each other’s childhoods and dating fears.

Ask for specific reasons that your sweethearte loves you for who you really are.

Investigate your lover’s dreams for the future with you.

Curiosity will take you beyond your expectations and fantasies, so that you can get to know each other and yourselves more and more deeply. Stay open. You will learn more than you can imagine. And notice the growing connection, the opening of your hearts as you share yourselves more fully. Then curiosity becomes a great aphrodisiac!

And if you want to become more comfortable and confident as a smart, conscious dater - who wants a seriously fabulous committed relationship, we created our program “Smart Dating for Success Every Time - Guaranteed” for you.

http://www.judithandjim.com/smartdating

If honest, most people have to say yes.

But that’s the worst form of self-sabotage.

Why?

Because the ONLY person who can reject you . . . is YOU.

The other person may prefer a different look than yours, a different type of personality, even a different sense of humor or type of intelligence than yours . . . but that’s their preference. And there’s nothing you can do about that.

So it’s not rejection.

But when you start doubting or condemning yourself right out of the gate - that is self-rejection. And it cripples who you can be on any date.

Think about it.

If you’re out on a romantic date, say having a romantic dinner and you’re scared of rejection - then you aren’t available for real romance. Why? Because you are more involved with being scared of rejection then you are with the person you’re out with.

Your mind spins in imaginary whirlwinds of catastrophe, your palms sweat, you stumble when ordering your dinner, your laugh too loud, talk too little or too much and it’s all happening inside of YOU.

Get it!?

To overcome your self-rejection, and become a smart dater go to:

http://www.judithandjim.com/smartdating

Your unique wedding invitations set the stage for bridal day happiness. Rather than settling for a boiler plate invitation, when the two of you take the time to think through what you really want your invitations to convey, then you can express your deep happiness at what it actually means to be engaged to be married.

Along with your personalized, unique wedding invitations, your wedding programs can also convey your distinctive expression as a couple.

How do you do that? The first thing you’ll want to do is follow your heart. Notice how you feel toward your guests. How do you want them to feel when they read your invitation and your program. How about: cared for, included, excited to be with you. Perhaps you want to arouse a little chuckle, or a sentimental sigh.

When you check in with your united hearts’ desire, rather than some old romance books, you’ll easily determine the style and feel for your unique wedding invitations and wedding programs.

Remember that your wedding is an expression and celebration of your love. When you do, you’ll avoid selecting invitations that treat the event like it’s a story book display.

Also, remember that your wedding is the first day of your married life. So, when you select your unique wedding invitations, don’t make it an excuse to show off. Instead make sure your unique wedding invitations express the two of you as a couple, a loving, dedicated couple.

Then you’ll be able to count on your guests feeling cared for and included in your very real romantic connection expressed through the personal care you’ve taken during your wedding planning.

If you want to deepen and expand your romantic connection, so you can express it even further in your unique wedding invitations, be sure to pick up our book:

The Smart Couple’s Guide to the Wedding of Your Dreams http://www.tinyurl.com/c8sd8

Then things change. Differences show up. You feel annoyed. Irritated. Anger is close at hand. Instead of the perfection you enjoyed what seems like just a few days ago-the treasure of two-who-have-become-as-one-you now feel suddenly separate, almost alone. You’re not even sure he is someone you like anymore. Love has taken your relationship into its next passage of intimacy. We call it the clash of differences.

Real love insists that you move beyond the easy connection of the early days and allow your differences to make themselves known. Love challenges you to reveal more of your complexity, your limitations, quirks, excellence, and perhaps most important, those moments when you can’t imagine things going any other way but yours-in other words, your whole self.

The clash of differences is not only inevitable. It’s necessary. It’s that
time when love asks, “Are you serious about your relationship? Are you
willing to venture beyond what you expected and learn what awaits you? Do you want a love that takes root deep inside both of you?

When faced with love’s challenges, too many couples give up and let go of what could have been a very good relationship. Why? Because they believe that conflict means failure. They expect a spiritually meaningful love to happen effortlessly. They withdraw emotionally, convinced that something has gone terribly wrong, and despair that love is no longer possible.

This notion that love is without conflict is wrong. Flat wrong. It denies
the natural and necessary progression you must face when you join your
unique self with your partner who is also one-of-a-kind.

Excluding emotional and/or physical abuse, which absolutely and
unequivocally have nothing to do with love, your conflicts are signals that
both of you are showing up in your distinctiveness, which is a fundamental requirement if you are to ever have a relationship you can trust with your whole heart and soul.

However, we must all have compassion for ourselves. No one receives training in how to date effectively and how to co-create a successful, romantic long-term relationship. Most people, men and women alike, see conflict as somebody-wins-and-somebody-loses. No one likes to lose and the winner never really wins because the loser gets revenge somewhere down the line. Why wouldn’t we want to stay in the simple and easy pleasures of the first part of love?

Because that isn’t possible. Love changes. It takes all of us into the dark
side of who we are so that we can be assured that we are loved wholly-no masks, no games-loved for who we are, through and through. That’s the only way we can know if we are truly lovable and can develop the capacity to love someone else in just the same way.

The key to co-creating trustworthy love is to redefine the notion of
conflict. Rather than a win/lose battle, understand that each conflict is a
gift from the heart of your togetherness. It acts like a flare, shot up from
the depths of your relationship, alerting both of you that something
important needs attention. Something in your relationship is calling out for
new understanding, compassion, care, and healing.

The idea of opening yourself to conflict may sound daunting. After all, do
you want to risk antagonizing, or worse, be rejected by the very person you feel such love for? But if you don’t bring forth the truth-the hurt, fear, disappointment, anger, and sadness that arise from your clash of
differences-then you are not loving, no matter what you say. You are not
letting your partner know you. And that’s not real love.

Love can’t thrive in pretense. Love can grow only out of what is real.

So where is the magic in all of this?-in the singularly rich intimacy you
create together. This is the real, dependable, all-embracing intimacy in
which you both feel secure and willing to explore and express the full range of your feelings for each other-from sweet affection, to personal doubts and insecurities, and, yes, your fierceness when necessary.

There, in your differences, you will discover lasting passion, romance in
even the smallest moments, wisdom that guides you through the tough times, joy in simply being together, and a deepening spiritual awareness that love is real and it is what you thought it could be.

Don’t hide from your differences, especially when they lead to conflict.
They are fertile soil for co-creating mutual respect, esteem, trust,
intimacy, joy, and the very real magic that awaits you at the heart of who you really are.

** For Guaranteed Success on each and every date, make sure you check out http://www.judithandjim.com/smartdating