The Smart Dating Connection

07/04/09

by Norma Smith

I hadn’t dated in years and felt out of touch with flirting and chit chatting. But there was a man who used to talk to me when I was walking my dog, so when he asked me out, I decided to go for it. After all, had i not been ‘manifesting’ a man to break back into the dating scene?

He took me to a casual restaurant where we ate pizza and drank lots of coffee. I was impressed with myself that I was able to carry on a light conversation and not feel uncomfortable doing so. I was thinking that I was well on my way to relearning how to go on first dates.

Then he asked me what I did for a living. I said I did bodywork. And he thought I did body work on cars!! That should have been my first clue that we weren’t on the same wave length. Then he asked if I would like to go for a coffee and I said no, as we had just drank alot of coffee. I suggested a walk on the beach promenade to wear off some of the dinner. He equated this as a time for snuggling and smooching. He grabbed me so I was pushed into his hip area and I felt like I was attached to one of his legs! Then he kept trying to kiss me and I kept putting my head down to avoid the kiss. He took this to mean I was shy and not over my last boyfriend.

Now, if this wasn’t enough, as he dropped me off at my apartment, he asked if he could ask me out again to go dancing. I was not very good at being assertive then, so I said “perhaps”. For the next few days he called me every day wanting to know everything I did. I felt like a caged animal and finally had to tell him that I would not be going on a second date with him. Whew, what a relief.

Now I chuckle about it. I did get a date that I had been manifesting. But I learned a valuable lesson to be more specific about what I asked for!

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